Charles Spurgeon said, “God will not bless those teachers who do not grasp in their hearts the really fallen estate of their children.”
Because of Adam, every person that has ever been born is born with a sinful heart. Jeremiah 17:9 says, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” Paul echoes Jeremiah by writing in Romans 3, “As it is written, None is righteous, no, not one; no one understands; no one seeks for God.”
Anyone that says that a person at their core is good has never had a two year old.
You do not have to teach a child how to sin, disobey, or misbehave. It just happens naturally. What is in the heart will come out.
Knowing this is true, I am perplexed to try and understand why some parents in our churches today are more concerned with their child’s academic or financial success instead of their spiritual walk with Jesus.
If the parents do not value Jesus in the home, it is highly likely that the child will not value Jesus either.
You must feel the heaviness of the lostness of your child. Apart from being regenerated by Jesus, the child is doomed to spend eternity apart from God in hell. This should make you very uncomfortable.
It is gut wrenching to know that you could possibly spend eternity and never see your child. It is more gut wrenching to know that you wasted your life pushing your child to conform more to the American dream then to Jesus. There is nothing wrong with wanting your child to have a college degree, a good job, or an awesome marriage. However, that should not take the place of you wanting to see your child redeemed by the blood of Christ that was shed on the cross.
You cannot save your child. You alone do not have the ability to bring salvation to your child.
This should drive you to your knees. You should cry out to Jesus.
You have been given the awesome task of raising a child in a gospel-centered way. Your goal is to push your child to Jesus. You are your child’s parent. You are not their friend, buddy, or pal.
If you do not love Jesus, you cannot teach your child how to love Jesus. You cannot take your child to the cross if you have never been there.
You must have first experienced the outpouring of grace and mercy that Jesus gives you by snatching you from the road to hell and placing you in His flock; or you cannot be the example of a life that has been wrecked by Jesus.
Raising a child in a godly home is not easily done alone. Pray that the Holy Spirit will give you guidance in how you should raise, parent, train, and teach your child according to the Scriptures.
“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6 ESV.