Notes for FaithPoint

FaithPoint Logo 1The text for this sermon comes from Proverbs 31 and Galatians 5. The title of this sermon is: What A Proverbs 31 Woman Is Not.


We have taken a look at the Proverbs 31 woman over the last three weeks.

  1. We have seen what the world says about women and compared that to what God says about women.
  2. We have seen that a Proverbs 31 woman is a disciple of Jesus. Jesus has a calling on her life. She has a life that is devoted to Jesus. She is a child of God and her life is hidden in Christ with God.
  3. The Proverbs 31 woman cultivates the fruit of the Spirit. She wants to be like Jesus. She has to take responsibility for her own spiritual growth.


We have seen all of these special things that Jesus has said that the Proverbs 31 woman is.

We are going to end the series today by contrasting what the Proverbs 31 woman is not.

Proverbs 31:10-31

Galatians 5:16-21

The opposite of cultivating the fruit of the Spirit is giving into the works and desires of the flesh. The flesh and the Spirit are at war with each other. There can only be one winner. You help to make that decision based on what you devote your life to.


Paul writes in Galatians about these works of the flesh that are vices. They are traps for you spiritually. They suffocate and starve you from feeding your soul and thus stifles maturity in your sanctification process. The vices cause you to go further away from Jesus. They cause damage to your mind, and try to undo any growth that has already taken place. Vices keep you from conforming to the image of Jesus.

  • Sexual Immorality
  • Impurity
  • Sensuality

Sexual immorality takes sex as God designed it and perverts it. It appeases to the senses and the dark side or unsanctified part of your imagination. It takes something destructive and presents it to you as desirable.

Impurity – takes what is pure and taints or contaminates it.

Sensuality – heavily makes a person want to gratify their physical especially sexual desires


Women are not above lust. Women find pornography pleasurable to think about and sexually explicit books and romance novels tease their imagination.

A woman gives of herself emotionally before she gives of herself sexually. It is quite easy for a woman to be involved in emotional adultery without being involved physically.

Emotional adultery is sin just as any other sexual sin because your emotions are captivated by lust. When you give of yourself emotionally to someone else, you rob your spouse, fiance’ or boyfriend of the joy of having a relationship with you.

Point in case: Twilight, Magic Mike, 50 Shades of Grey.

Twilight – There is a problem when 40 year old women are wearing T-shirts that say “Team Edward” or “I Want Edward” to a movie that is about some teenage punk vampire. There is something desperate and sick about the state of a woman’s heart when she is lusting after a teenage guy.

Magic Mike – Women lusting after male strippers. I don’t think we really need to go much further here.

50 Shades of Grey – There are thousands of Christian women who have read this book and desire to see the movie. They are letting the book play to their sensuality and imagination and rolling their eyes at what God has said about sex in the Bible.

50 shades of crap is sin. It feeds to the dark side of your lust. It drives your imagination to a dark fantasy that deceives you into wanting something other than your spouse or what God designed sex to be.

It conveys the message that you can have sex for the sake of having sex. The book and movie both remove emotion, relationship, and intimacy from sex. Problem: If you try to remove any of those things, you are a robot. It’s not just sex. It is the most intimate, emotional, pleasurable bond you can have with your spouse. Spouse.

50 shades of crap is just that…crap. The man has no interest in the woman except to satisfy is own wicked desires. He wants to use her. He has no interest in loving, treasuring or cherishing her.

You do not have to be ashamed of sex. Sex is not dirty. Sex is not filthy. The perversion of what God designed sex to be is.

It grips your heart. Sex with your spouse, the way God intended, helps to mature your marriage relationship and progress both of you in your sanctification process. If you trade God’s way of sex for the world’s way of sex. You are flipping God the bird and telling him that you desire the world over what he has created for you. At that point, you no longer care about your sanctification process or your relationship with Jesus. You are walking away and trading truth for a lie.


  • Idolatry

Anything that you are more passionate about than Jesus is your idol. Sports, spouse, kids, job, car, activity, any person or thing that you love more than Jesus has taken the place of Jesus in your life and you need to repent.


  • Sorcery

Spells, magic, witchcraft, voodoo, psychics, ouija boards, anything that has to do with paganism, witchcraft, conjuring demons, talking to the dead, violates what God has already said. It is him and him alone that deserves all of your life. Getting involved in this garbage proves that you do not trust God as your provider or sustainer, you do not trust his sovereignty or his Word. Trusting in some kind of sorcery or magic shows that you have placed your faith in something other than God and it will fail you.


  • Enmity

Active willful rebellion or resistance against God and his commands. This is a vice that all Christians struggle with. They don’t always want to do what God has called them to do. They don’t want to share the gospel, they don’t always want to serve or love others, they don’t always want to make disciples. Refusing or resisting any of God’s commands is enmity. It is something that needs to be repented of.


This is part one of the end of our Proverbs 31 Woman series. We will conclude with Part 2 on Sunday and we will follow the sermon with a time of communion.


I have loved this series on Proverbs 31.  It has been eye opening and heart opening. So many women think we must do everything and be the prefect woman in our husbands life and when we can't leave up to these standards we feel we failed our husband's our families.  When re dedicated my life back to Jesus Christ in 2006 after 15 years I lived in a world of feeling I had failed in my life period. but when I came back I found out the things I thought I had forgotten about.  Not saying i still not struggled with many things I did.  One of my favorite verses is I can do all things through Christ who strengthens men.  I realized I did not fail in my mariage or with my family.  I had though failed God but he opened his arms and welcomed my back.  In 2008 I agrreed to give my husband the divorce he wanted.  I realized I had been holding on to false hope in that he would come back to me. And depression in my life was killing me.  But with the Lord Jesus back in my life. I found that I had not been in the wrong I had a lot of forgiving to do. So each day a piece of the onion has been pealed away and I forgive every day.  I ask the Lord to show me things that need to be changed in me.  Do not ever put a person or thing higher than the Living God.  He is always to be first in our lives.  I have loved the study on the proverbs 31 woman.  I hope if  God is willing to bring another husband in my life that He loves God first and more than I.  Because I know the time I have been alone I have grown closer to my Savior and He is now the Love of my life and here and through eternal.  I wake every morning Knowing that He gives me a new day everyday and There is always something to change in my Life.  And I know I am no longer alone because He stands by me and some times reaches day and picks me up when I think the I can not go on any longer. But I know that all things work for the good for those who love God and are called according to his purpose.  We are all called to go out and make discipiles and to spread the good news.  And so many want to make it a difficult thing to do.  If you love something so much go and tell everyone you know about them.  I LOVE JESUS AND ALL THAT HE IS>