My wife and I have two boys. One is four and he is in Pre-K. The other one is two and he is a little ball of energy.
I want to be my children’s superhero. I want to be the man that they look up to. I want to be the godly example that they need in their lives. I want them to know that I did my best to point them to Jesus in every area of life.
I love being a dad. There are some things now that I have two boys weigh heavily on my heart. I am raising my boys in a world where divorce is like cancer, children and teenagers are sold into sex slavery, people use and abuse people to better their lifestyle or gain a stupid title and a corner office. Porn is a drug that destroys lives. I can’t stop all the evil that is in the world. However, I can show them the things that are truly important.
It has everything to do with Jesus. I want my kids to passionately love Jesus. They will not do this if they think Jesus to be irrelevant in their lives. They will take their cues from me. If I act like Jesus is not important to me, it is highly likely that Jesus will not be important to them either.
As I read Scripture, I am compelled as a father to push my children to Jesus. There are things that I have to teach them if I do not want them to be a statistic. They need to learn how to challenge, engage, and influence culture not become a product of it.
The book of 1 Peter says that our spiritual maturity is directly tied to our obedience to God and His word. There is nothing that I want more than to see my boys love Jesus and follow Him.
Society seems to reward boys that don’t want to grow up. These boys age but want to stay Peter Pan. They want to be 27 staying at their parent’s house playing XBox in their Spider-Man pajamas, without a job or a girlfriend. There are now “men” up to the ages of 35 staying at home with their parents. This is not biblical manhood. This is not even smart. It is stupid, lazy and tragic.
Everything I teach my boys will push them to Jesus. I believe there is a Biblical mandate for a boy to grow up and become a man. It is my responsibility to help them make that transition. Biblical manhood helps men become leaders instead of bystanders and spectators.
Here are ten things I want to teach my boys:
- Jesus is everything. There is nothing I want more than for God to radically wreck my boys with the gospel. I want to see them redeemed by the precious blood of Christ.
- The Bible will guide you in how to live the Christian life. It will teach you how to be a godly man. It will transform you and conform you more to the image of Christ.
- Their mother is the example of the kind of Christian woman they should look to marry.
- A girl is a human being. She is delicate and should be cherished. She is not an object of lust.
- Don’t date a girl until you are ready to get married.
- I want to live my life in such a way as to be the example of a godly man, godly husband, godly father, godly pastor.
- Treat all people the way you would want to be treated.
- Your closest friends should be Christians so that you can grow with them. There needs to be authenticity and transparency here so that you can hold each other accountable according to the Scripture. This would be iron sharpening iron.
- Real friends are a precious commodity. Cultivate them.
- You can be anybody in public. Who you are when no one is looking is who you really are.
This list is not exhaustive by any means. I am sure as they get older, the list will become a little longer.
What do you think? What would you add to the list?