Our four year old usually wakes up before 8:00 and the two year old soon follows. Saturdays start fairly early in this house.
Saturdays are Mommy’s day to sleep in. Dad and the boys might go to the Waffle House for breakfast just to have some Daddy and boys time. Other Saturdays are different. I let Bryson help me make breakfast for everyone. He likes to stir the eggs to make scrambled eggs and he likes to help put biscuits in the oven.
Saturdays are not about breakfast. They are about the conversations that I have with my little guys. They are about having fun. They are about being present.
Your kids are probably like my kids. They don’t care about what you do as much as they care that you are with them. To your kids, it isn’t about the event as much as it is being with you.
This means that as parents, we need to be present. Fully present. Our kids deserve to have all of us present. It is not fair to them for our bodies to be present and our minds are off wandering in Neverland. Your to-do list can wait. There is nothing more important than spending that quality time with them. Cherish these moments now. They grow up all too quickly.
You have to learn to be present. It sounds easy but it takes work.
It means that you are not distracted by anything.
I have had to work at this and I still do not get it right every time. I want my boys to have my complete and undivided attention. I don’t want to be focused on something else. There have been too many times that I picked up my phone when I should have been paying attention to my boys.
We do not need to be a slave to our phones. They do not command us. They cannot demand anything from us.
Let’s face it. We are not so important that we need to have Twitter and Facebook open all the time. There is nothing more important online than what is going on in real life.
Facebook notifications can be checked later. Twitter and Instagram can wait. Your kids need you now.
Each moment is to be cultivated and made into a memory that you and your kids will remember for years to come. Let’s not waste our moments.
As dads, we have the ability to make moments matter. There is no better way to do this than letting our kids know that we are fully present for them.
How do you make moments special with your kids? Let’s continue the conversation on Facebook.